The teapot’s whistle signifies a warm, peaceful moment is within reach. Then, the phone rings, the doorbell sounds, a child calls, or an item on your to-do lists demands immediate attention.

When was the last time you said no to the world and yes to yourself?

The Problem with Saying Yes

Pouring into the lives of those around us is gratifying, but only when we feel personally fulfilled. When seeking acceptance, self-worth, or super-woman status, saying yes can become stressful, burdensome, and exhausting.

The Reason We Say Yes

There are many reasons women say yes to others and no to themselves. One may be that the woman wants to avoid disappointing people. Another reason is that we care too much about what others think of us. Whatever your reasons may be, saying yes too often does little to raise your self-worth in a substantial way, and everything to run you down quickly ((http://thestressedmom.com/2012/02/you-know-you-say-yes-too-much-if/).

The Effects of Saying Yes

Just as the reasons you say yes are personal, so is the impact it has on your life. Three common results of this are:

  1. Stress

    There are physical and emotional consequences to saying yes too much. Setting an equilibrium is important to avoiding anxiety, depression, aches, and pains. http://my.clevelandclinic.org/healthy_living/stress_management/hic_stres…

  2. Hectic Schedules

    When a busy schedule consumes your thoughts, and you begin planning each move with the attitude of “how am I ever going to do this?” you restrict the flow of positive energy and sacrifice control for mere management. http://www.healingspirit.com/journal/advice/thought/a-little-wisdom-for-…

  3. Exhaustion

    Lifestyle for the modern woman is fast-paced. When this is the case, proper eating, exercise, and sleep may become a low priority. The very activities that produce energy seem to be the first cut when we say yes to others. http://women.webmd.com/features/why-so-tired-10-causes-fatigue

Guard Yourself…

Here are some action steps to take to guard you from saying no to yourself:

  • Make a list of your daily needs and wants
  • Next to each item on your list, mark how much time it will take
  • Place these needs and wants into your daily or weekly schedule

Make these happenings priority. If you’ve never scheduled time for yourself before, it will be valuable to discuss your new habits with family and friends.

Let’s Talk About It

  • How does the time I spend taking care of myself compare to the time I devote to others?
  • Will I feel guilty for voicing my needs and wants?
  • Do I measure my self-worth on how happy I make others?

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